The middle age wisdom

A dilemma that inevitably comes with mature age:

"How do I make changes to be happier, and what are the changes that I need to make?"

The inspiring complexity of growing older and wiser, and a realization that time is passing way more quickly than we thought. The ability and courage to make the changes that lead toward the accomplishments of the soul, and not only what the world and obligations expect from us.

I now love the skin that I am in, and despite many ups and downs, despite extreme issues that I have faced in my life, I have allowed myself time and effort to get to know myself and explore my own person in fuller depth.

Of course, nobody is always fulfilled, and happiness exists and really thrives mostly when we are the least aware of it. Despite battling countless life challenges like most people, I have found that the following can always improve, not only our ways of thinking, but our entire existence by placing us levels and levels above the mundane and ordinary.

Unusual is where the magic happens, and it is so nice once we are able to find that space.

It need not last all of the time, but once it becomes a corner that safely awaits for us whenever we need to find ourselves again, away from the crowd and noise, life starts flowing way more easily.

1. Knowing what you want in the present time (what your heart and soul truly desire in the now, based on all the experience and knowledge accumulated throughout the ups and downs) is the road that leads to progress on every possible level, and it always brings motivation and enthusiasm. This is very important, because we easily fall into habits, and life problems easily accumulate, causing stress and unease. Reinventing ourselves is the key, and we do that by finding out, on an ever deeper level, over and over again, what it is that we want in the now.

2. We do not have the same desires that we used to, things and people, naturally- and hopefully, change

3. Let yourself feel and express those feelings freely, and let your loved one do the same

4. It is a gradual process; start with being totally honest about your inner self, wishes, expectations, and also about other people's needs and characters that have changed over time too

5. If someone or something needs letting go, do not be afraid to let life take care of it.

6. Changing my own frequency inadvertently has lead to some old, unnecessary things and unfortunately, or maybe very fortunately, some people to fall away too. Life is a learning process, and we need to allow it to do what it must, teaching us all our lessons and propel us forward in the game, each at our own speed

7. Wisdom comes with age, and aging well means allowing the maturity to fulfill us with answers while we remove the protective walls

8. Listen to yourself and your inner guru, we all have it, and it is never wrong

9. Take time to investigate your own inner spheres and follow the heart's desires step by step through meditation, yoga, walks in the nature, honest talks with friends, and lots and lots of self-introspection, creating a new reality that better suits your true, ever changing nature

10. Ultimately, stare all the fears in the eye and take the concrete steps toward your heart's desires

11. Do not expect anyone to make miracles happen for you or to make you happy. It is very important to remember this, because we naturally expect attention, love, and care from our friends and loved ones. Unfortunately, sometimes, the other side does not feel the same way.

12. Our happiness depends solely on our own self improvement and awareness. Nobody has an obligation to make us happy, it can happen only spontaneously when the frequencies meet and compatibility becomes the driving force.

13. True love and care in any kind of relationship is devoid of envy, rivalry, lack of trust, lack of communication, and jealousy. Everything that looks and feels like this is fake, and fakeness is a poison for our emotions and our well-being.

14. It takes lots of courage and determination to accept truths in life and allow ourselves to learn how to be in the flow. Fear is powerful, and if usually restricts all movement forward.

15. Looking deep into your own soul, introspecting more and again, and being sure about own desires and emotions is the road to freedom and happiness

16. When something needs to be fixed and it can be, go for it, forgiveness and love are paramount, but if such a thing is impossible, do not dwell on it, move on and find lightness of your own being in people who deserve your heart

17. If you think that you need help, do not hesitate to ask for it. Good people love to help, and there is so much help available at all times. It is always way braver to reach out than to let the fear, past trauma, others' opinions, pride, and pain keep us from moving forward

18. Do, engage in, and create what makes your heart smile and enjoy the sheer satisfaction of seeing love resurface in the most unexpected ways and places.

19. This practice is exceptionally liberating and fulfilling

20. Keep eight coins in your wallet for luck as per Chinese tradition:)

My happy place

One's true purpose and how to find it

Why is it so important to follow one's own true purpose and not do the B side of life as per old recipes? Why is it so important to let ourselves express our feelings and expectations fearlessly? Why is it so crucial to let ourselves be childishly happy?

To enjoy life much more fully by eliminating or reducing regrets, and to grow our consciousness by practicing what we have learned.

We now have the courage and the knowledge to do it.

Happiness is a choice, and it is a hard choice to make.

We can change habits, we can become more fearless, and we can decide to stop being edgy and fearful, laugh more, and become more relaxed and in tune. We can learn how to be in the flow by simply following our own desires and affinities.

We can allow negative feelings and anger to eat a good portion of our inner peace, because God know we all have experiences lots of heartbreak by now, or we can be kindly honest, let them out, and move on. Being courageous always opens up new doors to great possibilities and happiness. This is what we owe to ourselves to stay healthy and age gracefully.

I have just had a discussion with my friends about the importance of money in life and whether or not lots of money can make us truly happy. We each had our own answer to this question. If asked whether you would prefer to go back in time and fix whatever you think should have been done differently or be given 10 million dollars in cash to live worry free the rest of your days, 9 out of 10 people would choose cash.

I am aware that, without the mistakes and regrets, we would not be who we are, and the knowledge that we have accumulated would not exist which is the point of living, but I would be tempted to go back, only to bring all this knowledge to my younger self, who probably would not listen anyway:)

Does this answer the question of whether I am ultimately happy or not in the now? I do not think it is that simple. I just think that sometimes we feel sorry for our younger selves, and that is fine, without dwelling on it.

I was not aware of myself enough when I was younger. I was afraid to protect myself, and at the same time, I always, always thought that I had to be strong and resilient. I never learned how to be vulnerable, because I simply never let myself be.

This led to heartbreaks, and it lead to some large turning points and things that could never be undone. It led to me building huge protective walls.

When you do not show vulnerability, everyone thinks that you are so strong that nothing in this world can shake you, and that you do not need support of any kind.

You become invisible, because everyone sees you as invincible.

We need to let ourselves be all of these things: Vulnerable and brave to express our feelings freely and completely, sometimes even helpless, and determined to be honest, no matter what. Happiness is what we owe to ourselves first and foremost, without regrets, without excuse, and without having to answer to anyone, and happiness is achieved by being raw, vulnerable, sincere, kind, and honest to the core.

If I could go back in time, I would regain my youth with much more knowledge. Going back in time to teach our younger self the secrets of life would be worth all the money in the world, but it does not work that way for a reason. Would you want to take the risk of time travel, a possibility to alter the course of things? I do not think that any of us would. At least, not in the current concept of time, because there is no such thing as a rewrite of life.

The wisdom, courage, and knowledge to operate my life in a much smarter way would have been handy 20 years ago, so time travel is definitely a tempting idea for me. Oh, the wisdom of maturity and a 20/20 hindsight!

Maybe, there are people born with this ability to clearly see things right from the start thus mapping out their lives with great precision and productivity, but most of us have to learn through pretty constant trials and errors.

We cannot go back in time and fix things in order to have a near-perfect present, and that is more than fine. Acceptance and gratitude are paramount in the now, and continuous learning and accumulating knowledge is the key.

So, let's format our lives as per our own, individual recipes in the now. Let's use all this wisdom and power gathered over the years, and let's release regret and resentment. Nothing is set in stone unless we want it to be.

Everything is fluid. Let's find the courage to care for ourselves and our wishes in the now without looking back. More often than not, many of us are not going to be liked, but we were never liked much anyway, right? Being different also means being independent while being surrounded by only the right souls.

Change can be a small stepping stone or a large feat. However it happens and whatever it entails, it keeps enriching our existence when aligned with our true feelings and desires. Let's unload the luggage and make the second half count even more, because if we don't, what have we built all this experience and knowledge for?

How am I doing it?

By making it my mission not to be afraid of anything or anyone anymore, by constantly working on self- awareness, by following my own inner guru, my desires, and by changing the attitude and habits, one at a time by continually respecting my own self and my true nature.

Who can ask more from us? Love and hugs